Forgiveness is not for them, It’s for you.
Forgiving someone doesn’t mean what happened was okay.
Forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean forgetting, reconciling with someone or allowing them back into your life.
Looking after yourself can also mean having boundaries and deciding what you will and won’t accept going forward.
Forgiveness, this is so important.
First of all we need to forgive ourselves for anything we hold ourselves accountable for.
We need to forgive all who have done us any harm in anyway. We do not do this for the person, we do this for ourselves. We shift our perception.
We realise that forgiveness helps us. Forgiveness releases blockages in us.
Let go of negative beliefs and habits. In order to change our negative beliefs we must first understand what we are telling ourselves and then tell ourselves the exact opposite. Affirmations can help with this.
What are the benefits of forgiving and letting go?
- Improved mental health and well-being
- Decreased physical pain levels
- Reduced anxiety, depression and stress
- Lowers cholesterol, blood pressure and risk of heart attack
- Brings peace and balance to the body, mind and soul
Forgive easily and often, for no one else but you
How do I forgive and let go?
Let go of negative beliefs and habits. In order to change our negative beliefs we must first understand what we are telling ourselves and then tell ourselves the exact opposite. Affirmations can help with this.
- Affirmations such as, I forgive myself for making mistakes. I forgive myself for having tried and failed. I forgive myself for the times I was too scared to try. I forgive myself for not addressing problems sooner. I forgive myself for not being perfect.
- I like to burn old thought patterns and beliefs, when one pops into my mind I simply write it out on paper and burn them in flames, literally.
- You could also visualise taking them somewhere very far away and burying them in the sand.
- EFT Tapping (emotional freedom technique) is a great way to work on forgiveness and letting things go.
- Decluttering your environment. I love the feeling of space in my home after a good declutter. I always feel lighter in my mind and body afterwards too.
Further Reading:
How to cultivate positive self-talk – What are you telling yourself? – The Self-care Habit
Once we’re aware of the way we speak to ourselves, we can start changing some of those internal patterns.
How to adopt an attitude of gratitude – The Self-care Habit
Shift your attention towards appreciation rather than staying focused on what has hurt you.
Self-Care Becomes Self-Love And from there Self-Development Happens – The Self-care Habit %
Connecting forgiveness to your my philosophy of developing a kinder relationship with yourself.
10 Great Journaling Prompts – The Self-care Habit
A practical follow-on for readers who want to write through their thoughts and feelings.
Why is self-care important? – The Self-care Habit
A broader introduction to why looking after our emotional wellbeing matters.